# An experience concerning spousal documents **URL:** \ **Category:** Story Time!\ **Created:** [March 26, 2025, 3:26pm UTC](https://forum.notarycafe.com/t/an-experience-concerning-spousal-documents/50982 "2025-03-26T15:26:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 17\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![jennjoneis](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forum.notarycafe.com/jennjoneis/32/34972_2.png) [@jennjoneis](https://forum.notarycafe.com/u/jennjoneis)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2025, 11:06pm UTC](https://forum.notarycafe.com/t/an-experience-concerning-spousal-documents/50982/21 "2025-03-28T23:06:26Z")
I heard in some states after people live together for 20 years they are considered married or something like that… ---
**Author:** ![abbottirene](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forum.notarycafe.com/abbottirene/32/37509_2.png) [@abbottirene](https://forum.notarycafe.com/u/abbottirene)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2025, 11:14pm UTC](https://forum.notarycafe.com/t/an-experience-concerning-spousal-documents/50982/22 "2025-03-28T23:14:28Z")
I was lucky to have an attorney on standby to ask. I didn’t know but he said absolutely no way continuing. It made me always look at the names since then. ---
**Author:** ![johnsonps306](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forum.notarycafe.com/johnsonps306/32/35090_2.png) [@johnsonps306](https://forum.notarycafe.com/u/johnsonps306)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2025, 1:38pm UTC](https://forum.notarycafe.com/t/an-experience-concerning-spousal-documents/50982/23 "2025-03-29T13:38:04Z")
You have to register as a common law couple in states that recognize common law. It’s not just automatic. At least not in the states I have lived in. ---
**Author:** ![cNsa5](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forum.notarycafe.com/cnsa5/32/33381_2.png) [@cNsa5](https://forum.notarycafe.com/u/cNsa5)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2025, 1:46pm UTC](https://forum.notarycafe.com/t/an-experience-concerning-spousal-documents/50982/24 "2025-03-29T13:46:32Z")
@jennjoneis Great job with your attentiveness 🎉🤓 As with most items, the criteria for _“being considered married”_ varies from region-to-region/state-to-state. _ **It’s best to avoid placing oneself betwixt & between!** _ _Always check a reliable source for the information to avoid making any possible faulty presumptions that may be valid in one segment of the US and unheard of in another . . ._ Just **know** that my usual expression to ensure that one “check with their hiring entity” **also applies** in this case, because responsibility of the final determination of the marital status relies upon their (_Lender, Title Company, etc._) shoulders. 💫 Keep up the Great work! 🦢 ---
**Author:** ![jennjoneis](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forum.notarycafe.com/jennjoneis/32/34972_2.png) [@jennjoneis](https://forum.notarycafe.com/u/jennjoneis)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2025, 1:48pm UTC](https://forum.notarycafe.com/t/an-experience-concerning-spousal-documents/50982/25 "2025-03-29T13:48:28Z")
Good advice to check reliable source Thanks ---
**Author:** ![cNsa5](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forum.notarycafe.com/cnsa5/32/33381_2.png) [@cNsa5](https://forum.notarycafe.com/u/cNsa5)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2025, 1:54pm UTC](https://forum.notarycafe.com/t/an-experience-concerning-spousal-documents/50982/26 "2025-03-29T13:54:01Z")
@jennjoneis✅ Hopefully, you found the reference PDF file insightful & helpful in that regard. In general, I endeavor to have at least 3 different reliable reference sources to research in order to ensure clarification & validation. 😉 🦢 ---
**Author:** ![Sheresa](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forum.notarycafe.com/sheresa/32/33510_2.png) [@Sheresa](https://forum.notarycafe.com/u/Sheresa)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2025, 4:43pm UTC](https://forum.notarycafe.com/t/an-experience-concerning-spousal-documents/50982/27 "2025-04-01T16:43:08Z")
Wow! Who underwrote this loan? ---
**Author:** ![jennjoneis](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forum.notarycafe.com/jennjoneis/32/34972_2.png) [@jennjoneis](https://forum.notarycafe.com/u/jennjoneis)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2025, 4:53pm UTC](https://forum.notarycafe.com/t/an-experience-concerning-spousal-documents/50982/28 "2025-04-01T16:53:02Z")
I don’t remember who underwrote this one. It was drama town ---
**Author:** ![mobilenotaryinohio](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/6a8cbe/32.png) [@mobilenotaryinohio](https://forum.notarycafe.com/u/mobilenotaryinohio)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2025, 9:31pm UTC](https://forum.notarycafe.com/t/an-experience-concerning-spousal-documents/50982/29 "2025-04-01T21:31:31Z")
You did not ask the marital status when you confirmed the apnt? ---
**Author:** ![johnsonps306](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forum.notarycafe.com/johnsonps306/32/35090_2.png) [@johnsonps306](https://forum.notarycafe.com/u/johnsonps306)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2025, 9:58pm UTC](https://forum.notarycafe.com/t/an-experience-concerning-spousal-documents/50982/30 "2025-04-01T21:58:22Z")
Personally, I never confirm marital status when I confirm the appointment. You don’t want to come off as intrusive is how I look at it. I confirm total number of signers. ---
**Author:** ![cNsa5](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forum.notarycafe.com/cnsa5/32/33381_2.png) [@cNsa5](https://forum.notarycafe.com/u/cNsa5)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2025, 10:03pm UTC](https://forum.notarycafe.com/t/an-experience-concerning-spousal-documents/50982/31 "2025-04-01T22:03:03Z")
> [@jennjoneis](#): > > drama town @jennjoneis_ **Too Funny!** _😂😂😂 I simply LOVE the image those 2 words created! 💗🥰💗 🦢 ---
**Author:** ![jennjoneis](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forum.notarycafe.com/jennjoneis/32/34972_2.png) [@jennjoneis](https://forum.notarycafe.com/u/jennjoneis)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2025, 10:20pm UTC](https://forum.notarycafe.com/t/an-experience-concerning-spousal-documents/50982/32 "2025-04-01T22:20:29Z")
when I said “per lender spouse must be present” He responded with " She’ll be there" He responded with false information If he didn’t have a spouse that right there is a great time to say so other wise it’s none of my business (notaries are uninterested third party vendors) ---
**Author:** ![NotaryLadyBre](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forum.notarycafe.com/notaryladybre/32/33944_2.png) [@NotaryLadyBre](https://forum.notarycafe.com/u/NotaryLadyBre)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2025, 1:06am UTC](https://forum.notarycafe.com/t/an-experience-concerning-spousal-documents/50982/33 "2025-04-02T01:06:59Z")
It’s all fun and games until someone reads the “penalties for perjury” section 😳😆 ---
**Author:** ![jennjoneis](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forum.notarycafe.com/jennjoneis/32/34972_2.png) [@jennjoneis](https://forum.notarycafe.com/u/jennjoneis)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2025, 2:03am UTC](https://forum.notarycafe.com/t/an-experience-concerning-spousal-documents/50982/34 "2025-04-02T02:03:53Z")
So true. They learned a lesson that day ---
**Author:** ![LindaH-FL](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8baadc/32.png) [@LindaH-FL](https://forum.notarycafe.com/u/LindaH-FL)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2025, 12:29pm UTC](https://forum.notarycafe.com/t/an-experience-concerning-spousal-documents/50982/35 "2025-04-02T12:29:00Z")
I’ve never confirmed marital status during confirmation call. Suppose they’re just co-owning. I _do_ let them know that two parties are required to be present and I confirm names of both. ---
**Author:** ![cNsa5](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forum.notarycafe.com/cnsa5/32/33381_2.png) [@cNsa5](https://forum.notarycafe.com/u/cNsa5)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2025, 5:08am UTC](https://forum.notarycafe.com/t/an-experience-concerning-spousal-documents/50982/36 "2025-04-03T05:08:40Z")
> [@abbottirene](#): > > attorney on standby to ask . . . absolutely no way continuing @abbottirene Thank You 🎉 for sharing your _ **direct experience.** _ Yes, it was **fortuitous** to have an expert on Standby . . . _An elucidating learning lesson._ 🦢 ---
**Author:** ![NC\_Mike](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forum.notarycafe.com/nc_mike/32/54_2.png) [@NC\_Mike](https://forum.notarycafe.com/u/NC_Mike)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2025, 5:09am UTC](https://forum.notarycafe.com/t/an-experience-concerning-spousal-documents/50982/37 "2025-07-02T05:09:09Z")
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