@jennjoneis Great question. 
There is NO industry standard correct process for this scenario.
Concur 
percent with @Arichter noted above . . . & especially APPRECIATE the “power” struggle situation identified. 
Very interesting.
My technique is to specifically ask each & every time. In addition, I ask in writing and request a reply in writing. Why (one might ask?).
Because of the tendency I referred to recently of SRDH . . . “the PSA/notary is “always the recipient of the blame” regardless of where the true fault originates.”
